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tailfins
03-29-2012, 02:55 PM
The above title is take from: 4 Feminist Myths about Domestic Violence

http://www.glennsacks.com/4_feminists_myths.htm

Furthermore, 66 percent of women claimed to have initiated their split

http://www.aarp.org/relationships/love-sex/info-2004/divorce.html

Another factor in claiming domestic violence is that it is used as a tool to gain a more favorable divorce outcome and immediate exclusive use of the family home. You can google false spousal abuse allegations divorce and see example such as these:

http://www.divorceny.com/divorce/last-month-recognizing-domestic-violence/
http://www.dadsdivorce.com/component/content/article/34-divorce/42-fighting-false-allegations-of-domestic-abuse
jimnyc
03-29-2012, 03:03 PM
Being that the gist of the thread is men being victims, you're not likely to receive much attention here.
Dilloduck
03-29-2012, 03:35 PM
true---whites don't get to be victims either. Well maybe white women do.
jimnyc
03-29-2012, 03:37 PM
true---whites don't get to be victims either. Well maybe white women do.

What about a middle class white male, and a republican?
Dilloduck
03-29-2012, 03:43 PM
What about a middle class white male, and a republican?

I have sympathy for you I'm probably the only one.
SassyLady
03-29-2012, 06:47 PM
I have sympathy for you I'm probably the only one.

My dad beat the shit out of my mom. His motto was that "you have to beat your wife often so she knows who the boss is". Mom woke up one day when I was eight, took me and my three brothers and ran away. Problem is that she ended up with another abuser. This time she fought back. For the next 6-8 years they beat the crap out of each other daily (usually after being at the bar all night). Cops were at our house at least once a week.

Men beat women, and women beat men. Neither of my husbands were physically abusive ... seeing all that violence as a kid made me take a wide berth around anyone that displayed those tendencies.
logroller
03-29-2012, 07:27 PM
I just take it, and gradually learn to love it-- self-defense is bad karma.
logroller
03-29-2012, 07:30 PM
My dad beat the shit out of my mom. His motto was that "you have to beat your wife often so she knows who the boss is". Mom woke up one day when I was eight, took me and my three brothers and ran away. Problem is that she ended up with another abuser. This time she fought back. For the next 6-8 years they beat the crap out of each other daily (usually after being at the bar all night). Cops were at our house at least once a week.

Men beat women, and women beat men. Neither of my husbands were physically abusive ... seeing all that violence as a kid made me take a wide berth around anyone that displayed those tendencies.

Making a conscious decision to live a healthier life is completely off subject SL; I thought we were talking about being helpless victims. :laugh2:
SassyLady
03-29-2012, 07:36 PM
Making a conscious decision to live a healthier life is completely off subject SL; I thought we were talking about being helpless victims. :laugh2:

Well, crap ..... :panicsmiley:


What do I do now????
sundaydriver
03-29-2012, 07:43 PM
I thank my lucky star, but mostly my family for the way I grew up without ever seeing a hand or nasty verbal assult raised to another family member. Original parents, married 63 years, not always agreeable, willing to part out.


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tailfins
03-30-2012, 05:46 AM
I just take it, and gradually learn to love it-- self-defense is bad karma.


The "domestic violence" storm hit my family before I was born. It's amazing how this stuff can leave effects that go on for generations. I actually have some siblings that resent that I never "took a beating" whom I haven't even seen in nearly a decade. At least I was thoroughly coached on how to keep abusive people far away from my life. Being and insisting that all with whom you associate are teetotalers is a big first step.
cadet
03-30-2012, 08:35 AM
When i did a paper on this, i found that most domestic violence is characterized different then what most people would classify.

For example, they added "insulting in front of people" and "breaking stuff" and "continually putting down partner."

And it said most girls put the violence on the guys, (being that in most relationships, the guys tend to be bigger) the guy just sort of takes it. but if the guy hits the girl (again, guy tends to be bigger) shit happens. and it's reported.

I can't remember my resources, but they're out there.