avatar4321
02-16-2008, 07:24 AM
I know some people aren't going to like this. But quite frankly, I don't care. It's the truth and I needed to say it.
http://us.i1.yimg.com/videogames.yahoo.com/feature/wedding-woes-the-dark-side-of-warcraft/1186366
I was reading this and i just think its a travesty. Here are two people who threw their life together away because of a video game. And yes, while most of the blame goes with him (who is really really really really really really really stupid), she shares some of it.
It's just amazing that she didn't love him enough to delete the game from the computer while he was at work, cancel the account, and throw the game out. Yeah he probably would have been upset. But then he also would have realized how big the problem was.
Yeah it takes two to make something work. But if you dont really try to do something to save the marriage and not just talk, but there isnt even any mention of her trying to do something. (And no i dont think trying to set apart time to spend together without trying to address the actual problem is doing something).
The problem was he was addicted to a game. I can understand that, I think I was addicted at one point. But you can't just wait around hoping someone will someday get over the addiction. You have to address it head on. Hold an intervention. Get rid of the source of the addiction. Address the bigger emotional issue of why he is addicted to a video game. Do something!
The marriage may have still fallen apart. Who knows, but from the sound of it, i dont think it would have. They had been friends forever. They article says they are still friends and the divorce woke him up. Yeah you might have to go through hell. But isnt that the whole point of marriage? Pledging that you are willing to go through hell to lift the other person out of it? You don't get married for just the good times. You have to go through the bad too.
In saying all this I am not in anyway excusing his bad behavior. He has serious problems. But I just cant understand the lack of really trying to fix the problem. Yeah it's hard work. But marriage is work. Heck, life is work. You won't ever end up happy when you run away from problems. Trust me, I've tried.
I can't understand claiming victim status because a video game. It's a video game. You don't have to play them. You don't have to buy them for people to care about. You can throw it away if it's a problem. The marriage fell apart because two people didnt even try to address the real issues. One ran away to his fake reality and the other tried trivial things without the will to address the actual problem and then gave up in despair. I am sick and tired of people pretending to be victims when they could have chosen not to be. They could have made better choices.
They both made vows to love and cherish one another through good and bad times. And they are both refusing to take responsibility for not honoring those vows.
This has to end in society. The "it's not my fault" mentality is going to destroy our society. People need to accept responsibility for their actions. I am not saying we can't be compassionate to people. But I am just sick and tired of society coddling people who are victims of their own action. and Yes I know you are going to feel some sympathy to the woman. Who wouldn't? But she had choices she could have made that could have saved her marriage. It was her choice to end it all. And that's perfectly understandable under the circumstances. I can understand why she did so.
But she is not a victim of video games. She made the choice to leave. The video game did not force her too. Nor did her husband's actions however deplorable. She left because she chose to. And we could probably make an argument that they were good reasons. I just find treating her like a victim is deplorable. How on earth can you be a victim when you make a choice?
But apparently people are responsible for their choices any more. We are all victims. It's always the fault of someone or something other than ourselves. Have we really come so far in society where two people are going to blame a video game for their failed marriage as if the game is somehow responsible rather than the people involved? Why not just face the truth? yeah its painful and not always pleasant to listen to but if we don't face the truth, then we will never be able to heal.
http://us.i1.yimg.com/videogames.yahoo.com/feature/wedding-woes-the-dark-side-of-warcraft/1186366
I was reading this and i just think its a travesty. Here are two people who threw their life together away because of a video game. And yes, while most of the blame goes with him (who is really really really really really really really stupid), she shares some of it.
It's just amazing that she didn't love him enough to delete the game from the computer while he was at work, cancel the account, and throw the game out. Yeah he probably would have been upset. But then he also would have realized how big the problem was.
Yeah it takes two to make something work. But if you dont really try to do something to save the marriage and not just talk, but there isnt even any mention of her trying to do something. (And no i dont think trying to set apart time to spend together without trying to address the actual problem is doing something).
The problem was he was addicted to a game. I can understand that, I think I was addicted at one point. But you can't just wait around hoping someone will someday get over the addiction. You have to address it head on. Hold an intervention. Get rid of the source of the addiction. Address the bigger emotional issue of why he is addicted to a video game. Do something!
The marriage may have still fallen apart. Who knows, but from the sound of it, i dont think it would have. They had been friends forever. They article says they are still friends and the divorce woke him up. Yeah you might have to go through hell. But isnt that the whole point of marriage? Pledging that you are willing to go through hell to lift the other person out of it? You don't get married for just the good times. You have to go through the bad too.
In saying all this I am not in anyway excusing his bad behavior. He has serious problems. But I just cant understand the lack of really trying to fix the problem. Yeah it's hard work. But marriage is work. Heck, life is work. You won't ever end up happy when you run away from problems. Trust me, I've tried.
I can't understand claiming victim status because a video game. It's a video game. You don't have to play them. You don't have to buy them for people to care about. You can throw it away if it's a problem. The marriage fell apart because two people didnt even try to address the real issues. One ran away to his fake reality and the other tried trivial things without the will to address the actual problem and then gave up in despair. I am sick and tired of people pretending to be victims when they could have chosen not to be. They could have made better choices.
They both made vows to love and cherish one another through good and bad times. And they are both refusing to take responsibility for not honoring those vows.
This has to end in society. The "it's not my fault" mentality is going to destroy our society. People need to accept responsibility for their actions. I am not saying we can't be compassionate to people. But I am just sick and tired of society coddling people who are victims of their own action. and Yes I know you are going to feel some sympathy to the woman. Who wouldn't? But she had choices she could have made that could have saved her marriage. It was her choice to end it all. And that's perfectly understandable under the circumstances. I can understand why she did so.
But she is not a victim of video games. She made the choice to leave. The video game did not force her too. Nor did her husband's actions however deplorable. She left because she chose to. And we could probably make an argument that they were good reasons. I just find treating her like a victim is deplorable. How on earth can you be a victim when you make a choice?
But apparently people are responsible for their choices any more. We are all victims. It's always the fault of someone or something other than ourselves. Have we really come so far in society where two people are going to blame a video game for their failed marriage as if the game is somehow responsible rather than the people involved? Why not just face the truth? yeah its painful and not always pleasant to listen to but if we don't face the truth, then we will never be able to heal.